ROADS AWAY FROM PORN
by Salman Pasha
THE GOLDEN KEYS TO MAKE
THIS BOOK WORK FOR YOUR
“People often say that motivation doesn’t last.
Neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily”
Zig Ziglar
Imagination, the right technique, and consistency are the three Golden Keys to a porn-free life. Each one will play an important role in your journey to quit porn. Keep an open mind and go through the following pages and I will assure you that it will be worthwhile.
CONSISTENCY
“It's not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It's what we do consistently.”
Anthony Robbins
All the tips, techniques and the methods on the internet, in the books, in the lectures are just temporary fixes. But ask anyone who has crossed that 30 days or 90 days mark and he will tell you that “I did not do different things, I just did things differently and the secret of my success was CONSISTENCY, I was consistent with whatever I did “. Successful people don’t do different things they do things differently.
The millions of addicts are proof of “The Power of Consistency”, they are very consistent about their behavior, they get horny when alone, they watch porn after school, they jack off when depressed, etc. And the billions of nonaddicts or thousands of recovered addicts are proof of “The Power of consistency” too, they don’t watch porn, that’s what they are consistent with.
If you really want to quit porn, you need to find a method and stick to it. Because consistency is the magic ingredient in all successful endeavors. Go through the techniques in this book and find the ones most suitable for you and stick to them.
IMAGINATION
“Our thoughts and imagination are the only real
limits to our possibilities.”
Orison Swett Marden
Emile Coue was a French psychologist and pharmacist who introduced a popular method of psychotherapy and self-improvement based on autosuggestion or self-suggestion.
He is mostly known for his famous autosuggestion “Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better.” He has cured countless men of their psychological and physiological diseases with just auto-suggestion.
He has famously said, “When the imagination and will power are in conflict, are antagonistic, it is always the imagination which wins, without any exception.”
But we go through lives using our weak will to fight strong habits and addictions which use our own imagination against us.
Countless people are quitting porn and masturbation countless times and relapsing again and again and again.
Do you know what the problem is?
It’s the use of will power more than the power of their imagination. How many times were you able to sleep using your will power to induce sleep, or how many times were you able to salivate by willing to salivate, or how many times were you able to rationalize your fears and phobias?
The answer? NONE.
Because imagination is way too powerful than the will power. You can use your imagination to imagine tasting a big lemon to induce salivation, or you can imagine drifting on a cloud or any other relaxing scenery to induce sleep.
Imagination is like a big powerful truck, and the willpower is like its steering wheel. A truck can run without steering, but without the engine, its nothing.
Similarly, you can use your willpower to steer the course and use your imagination to power your goals to reach your destination. But if you use the willpower alone, you will not move an inch towards your destination.
You can decide to quit porn and masturbation, you can delete all your porn collection, burn every porn magazine and put porn filters on your devices. But once the porn cravings kick in, they will use your imagination against you with porn fantasies. At this moment, if you use your will power, you are sure to fail. But you can’t use your imagination too at this moment.
The only way out is to relapse.
Yes, you read it correctly, Relapse.
And once you have relapsed, you are at the best time to write down all the reasons you want to quit porn and masturbation. All the positive results you expect when you quit this addiction. Write down why you want to quit porn and masturbation, what it has done to your past and present and what it can do to your future.
Once you are done with the list, it’s time to get these things impressed on your mind and imagination or the visualization is the best way to do it.
Impress your mind with the ideal life you want to have. Get this image completely impressed on your mind. Let it generate positive emotions in you. And the next time a porn craving creeps in, you just have to think about this image of your ideal life and the craving will just vanish away.
CHOOSING THE RIGHT TECHNIQUE
“Practice does not make perfect. Only perfect
practice makes perfect.”
Vince Lombardi
People wrongly believe that “Practice makes a man perfect”, but they never stop to think that it's a half-truth and the reality is that “Only perfect practice makes a man perfect.''
But in the case of Porn addicts, even that belief does not hold good. Because “Only perfect practice of the perfect thing makes a man perfect.''
Porn addicts try to quit porn for a few days and relapse, they start again and do the same things they did at the start and fail again. They think that if they practice quitting porn enough times, they will succeed eventually. But alas! that is not the case.
To learn juggling, you need to practice. But if you practice the wrong technique, you are heading towards failure. To master juggling, you need to practice the right technique in the right way. If you keep practicing failure, you will learn to fail again and again and again.
What I strongly believe is that you need to go through all the techniques you know about quitting porn and find out the best technique and practice that technique until you master it. That’s the only way I know to succeed. Practice the right thing in the right way.
I have compiled more than 30 real techniques to quit porn in this book. Go through all the techniques and find the one you like the most or the one which was most effective and stick with it.
And now, let’s begin our journey towards a porn-free life.
to be continued . . .
