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6) Sexual Positions (ways in which spouses physically position themselves for sex)

When it comes to selecting a suitable position for sex, Islam grants the couple a general permission to choose whatever position they mutually agree upon, provided it is vaginal sex and not anal sex-which is clearly forbidden, as will be discussed later. A couple may find a particular method of having sex to be more comfortable and pleasurable, whilst another couple may feel at ease with a different position altogether. As such, it is left to the couple to decide on the position most suited to them, taking into account physical comfort, satisfaction and enjoyment. Allah Most High says:

''Your wives are tillage for you to cultivate. So approach your tillage from where you wish, but do some good act for yourselves beforehand; and fear Allah."

(Qur'an 2:223)

In this verse, Allah Most High uses the expression harth which means tillage or place of cultivation. The analogy between women and tillage indicates that it is only permissible to have sex with one's wife in her vagina, since this is the only way for the seeds to be cultivated and for her to conceive. However, in order to reach that place, any position or side can be adopted, whether from the front, the back or her prostrating and facing the ground (Al-Minhaj Sharh Sahih Muslim P: 1084).

Moreover, there are many reports found in hadith literature that explain this verse, and mention its circumstance of revelation (sabab al-nuzul)  Some are presented here: Sayyiduna Jabir ibn 'Abdillah (r) relates:

The Jews used to say, "If a man were to approach his wife from behind [but] in her vagina, the child [that she conceives] would be born cross-eyed, so the verse was revealed: "Your wives are tillage for you to cultivate. So approach your tillage from where you wish." 

(Sahih al-Bukhari 4254, Sahih Muslim 1435 &  

Sunan al­Tirmidhi 2978, the wording is of Muslim)

Sayyiduna 'Abdullah ibn Abbas (r) relates:

'Umar (r) came to the Messenger of Allah (sa) and said, "O Messenger of Allah! I have been doomed." He said, 'What is it that has doomed you?" He said, "I changed my saddle last night [referring to having sex with his wife from behind but in the vagina]." The Messenger of Allah (sa) did not say anything until this verse was revealed unto the Messenger of Allah (sa): ''Your wives are tillage for you to cultivate. So approach your tillage from where you wish." So he said, "Approach her from the front or back, but avoid the anus and [the period of] menstruation." (Sunan al­Tirmidhi 298o and Nasa'i in his Ishrat al-Nisa '94)

Sayyiduna 'Abdullah ibn Abbas (r) relates:

" ... This clan of the Ansar, who were idolaters [before Islam], lived in the company of the Jews who were the people of the Book. They [the Ansar] accepted their [i.e the Jews] superiority over themselves in respect to knowledge, and so followed most of their actions. The people of the Book [i.e. the Jews] used to approach their women on one side alone [i.e. lying on their backs], because this was the most concealing position for the woman. So the clan of the Ansar adopted this practice from them. This tribe of the Quraysh, [however], used to uncover their women completely, and seek pleasure with them from the front, from the back and laying them on their backs. When the Muhajirun (the immigrants) came to Al-Madina, one of them married a woman of the Ansar.  He wanted to do the same kind of things with her [i.e. what the Quraysh were accustomed to], but she objected and said, "We were only approached on one side [i.e. laying on the back], so do that otherwise stay away from me." This matter of theirs spread widely, and reached the Messenger of Allah (sa) So Allah Most High revealed: ''Your wives are tillage for you to cultivate. So approach your tillage from where you wish." Meaning from the front, from behind or laying on the back. But this verse meant the place of the delivery of the child [i.e. the vagina]." 

( Sunan Abi Dawud 2157)

Umm Salama (r) relates from the Messenger of Allah (sa) regarding the verse: "Your wives are tillage for you to cultivate. So approach your tillage from where you wish" that:

"It means one opening only [i.e. the vagina]."  

(Sunan al-Tirmidh'i 2979)

The verse of the Qur'an and the explanatory hadiths clearly indicate that the couple are permitted to have sex in any position they wish, without restriction. The examples of sexual positions cited in these hadiths indicate diversity and not limitation. As such, any other position the couple choose is perfectly fine. However, the condition is that it is vaginal and not anal sex, as this is absolutely unlawful.

Source: Islamic Guide To Sexual Relations

To Be Continued....

Sex during Pregnancy and the Period of Breastfeeding

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SEX DURING PREGNANCY AND THE PERIOD OF BREASTFEEDING

There is no difference of opinion between the scholars that it is permitted for a couple to have sex whilst the wife is pregnant. Likewise, it is permitted to have sex during the period of breastfeeding.

Sayyiduna Sa'd ibn Waqqas (r) relates that:

"A man came to the Messenger of Allah (s) and said, "I practice coitus interruptus [i.e. withdrawal method or 'azl] with my wife." The Messenger of Allah(s) said, "Why do you do that?" He replied, "I fear for her child or her children." The Messenger of Allah (s) said, "If it was harmful, then it would have harmed the Persians and Byzantines."  

(Sahih Muslim 1443)

Mulla 'Ali al-Qari (may Allah have mercy on him), the great scholar of hadith and Hanafi jurist, explains that the man feared for the child in his wife's womb, and that having sex with her may cause her to conceive again, resulting in twins which could weaken both foetuses.

A second interpretation is that he feared for the child being breastfed, in that sex may be harmful for the suckling child. The Messenger of Allah (s) rejected both notions saying that if sex was harmful during pregnancy or during the period of breastfeeding, it would have harmed the Persians and Byzantines. (See: Mirqat al-Mafatih 6:23)

Judama bint Wahb al-Asadiyya (r) relates that she heard the Messenger of Allah (s) say:

"I considered prohibiting sex during the period of breastfeeding (ghayla), but I remembered the Byzantines and Persians practicing this, and their children were not harmed ... " 

(Sahih Muslim 1442)

Moreover, the Messenger of Allah (s) forbade sex with a woman pregnant from another man (Sunan al-Tirmidhi1131), from which the scholars inferred the permissibility of sex with a woman pregnant from oneself.

Having said the above, scholars recommend that couples should seek reliable medical advice before having sex during both pregnancy and the period of breastfeeding. If a particular couple are advised by a medical specialist that sex is harmful during pregnancy or the period of breastfeeding, whether it puts the mother at risk, the suckling child or the foetus, then sexual relations should be avoided (Adab-e-Mubasharat P: 34-35). The hadith of the Messenger of Allah (s) in this context, is understood to apply to normal situations.

Furthermore, the husband should ensure he is extremely gentle and careful with his pregnant wife during sexual relations. He should avoid positions that may cause discomfort to her, especially in the final stages of pregnancy when the wife can become tired and exhausted very easily. (Ahmad Kan'an, Urul al-Mu'ashara al-Zawjiyya P: 79)

Source: Islamic Guide To Sexual Relations

To Be Continued....

Pull Out Method

Coitus interruptus, also known as the rejected sexual intercourse, withdrawal or pull-out method, is a method of birth-control in which a man, during intercourse withdraws his penis from a woman's vagina prior to orgasm (and ejaculation). The man then directs his ejaculate (semen) away from his partner's vagina in an effort to avoid insemination.

Pull Out Method

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The pull out method is the most risky practice couples use before the end of sexual intercourse. Although it is effective to many, there is a small chance that a mishap can happen at any given time. If you decide to experiment the pull out method, carefully read on to become successful at it during every sexual act.

1. What is the pull out method? The pull out method also known as the withdrawal method. This is what many couples use if they dislike different forms of birth control, such as condoms or contraception pills. The vagina must be penetrated to use the pull out method, and before ejaculation, a man withdraws his penis from the vagina to prevent getting sperm inside the vulva.
2. Practice makes perfect. It takes sexual experience and great self-control to use the pull out method effectively. It is extremely important to know your body and your response during a sexual act and when you are about to ejaculate. For all men, especially the less experienced, it is natural to have a huge urge to ejaculate inside a woman's vagina without a use of a condom; however, to successfully be in full control of your orgasm, pull out quickly when you feel an ejaculation about to happen. It is also best to urinate before sexual intercourse to avoid premature ejaculation or practice controlling your penis from ejaculating earlier than expected during masturbation. It helps greatly to avoid premature ejaculation to avoid pregnancy when using these techniques.
3. Is the pull out method safe? The pull out method is safe for men who are free from sexually transmitted diseases and is in a monogamous relationship with their partner. Although the pull put method isn't 100 percent effective, practicing withdrawing your penis in time and preventing pre-ejaculation leads to a minimum chance of pregnancy occurring.

Condom

It is permissible to use condoms so long as this does not cause any harm and so long as both husband and wife consent to their use, because this is similar to coitus interruptus or “withdrawal”. But it reduces the sensation of pleasure, which is the right of both partners, and reduces the chance of conception, which is also the right of both partners. Neither one of them is allowed to deprive the other of these rights.

Male Condom

A condom is a barrier device most commonly used during sexual intercourse to reduce the probability of pregnancy and spreading sexually transmitted diseases (STDs—such as gonorrhea, syphilis, and HIV). It is put on a man's erect penis and physically blocks ejaculated semen from entering the body of a sexual partner.

Female Condom

Male condoms have a tight ring to form a seal around the penis while female condoms typically have a large stiff ring to keep them from slipping into the body orifice.

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