THE EFFECTS OF PORN IN MY LIFE

 

 

ROADS AWAY FROM PORN

by Salman Pasha

 

UNDERSTANDING SOME CONCEPTS

“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.”

George Bernard Shaw

 

IS MASTURBATION BAD?

There are so many people who speak about butterfly stroke but have never gone for swimming.

 

Then there are those who speak about masturbation, but would never have masturbated as much as people who have finally come to a point when they ask themselves “Is it good or Bad?”

 

If you are masturbating and want to know if masturbation is good or bad, the best way is to quit doing it for a month and see what changes occur in your life.

 

Completely stop masturbating, and see how your life changes for better. If nothing changes, then, your frequency of masturbation is not much that it can have a physical or emotional effect. But it is like smoking, one Cigarette cannot kill you, but a habit of smoking will slowly and definitely kill you. Masturbating one time may not be harmful, but do it every day and you will see what effect it will have.

 

Consider this...

Fish don’t know they’re in the water.

If you tried to explain it, they’d say, “Water? What’s water?”

They’re so surrounded by it, that it’s impossible to see.

They can’t see it until they get outside of it.

 

Similarly,

Masturbators don’t know that it is harmful

If you tried explaining them, they’d say, “Harm? What harm is in it?”

They have done it so many times, so habitually that, it’s impossible to see.

They can’t see that harm until they stop doing it.

 

Some people have been masturbating for so long that they think that their life is going well, masturbation doesn’t affect them a bit. But I would like to tell you that if everybody smoked from age 5, then cancer would be considered a normal disease, as everyone would be getting it. And there would be no control group to compare against. Masturbating from an early age is like tying one of your hands to your back and going through life. You will grow up thinking that this is normal. But once you quit masturbation, once you untie your hand, you will see a whole new world. You will see that your potential is doubled. If you still think that masturbation is healthy, increase your frequency of masturbation in the coming days, you will see how healthy it is. You can believe what I said and improve the quality of your life, or you can go through life thinking that life is what it has been from the beginning – boring, without meaning and purposeless.

 

WHAT’S SEXUAL ENERGY?

People who quit porn and masturbation report such varied and amazing benefits that it is a bit difficult to comprehend. But, if you understand a few basic concepts, which are part of Ayurveda and Chinese medicine which are thousands of year-old systems of medicine, all the pieces will fall into place.

 

There is bioelectric energy called Chi in Chinese medicine and Prana in Ayurveda, which constantly circulates through every cell of your body. And, Ching also called Kama Shakti or Vital energy is the sexual energy which is produced and stored in the testicles. It is a synthesis of all other types of chi given by all the organs and glands, including the brain.

 

The production of this highly refined energy is very taxing on the body as it takes a large amount of life force chi to produce just a small amount of Ching. Thirty to forty percent of your daily chi energy goes into the production of sexual energy and this energy is then used in the production of sperm.

 

When you look at porn, Ching goes down and activates your sexual organs, it is this energy which is spent when you ejaculate. This is the reason you feel so tired and sleepy after you ejaculate.

 

Mantak Chia in his book “The Multiorgasmic Man” narrates a story of a man who says “Before I started practicing Sexual Kung Fu, if I had not ejaculated in a while, my sexual urge would get stronger and stronger. I would look at pornography, look for one-night stands, or go to prostitutes. After ejaculating, this urge would disappear almost instantly and I couldn’t understand why I had spent so much time and money trying to satisfy it. I would tell myself that I wouldn’t do it next time, but I knew that after a while the sexual urge would return and I would do it all over again. When I finally started practicing Sexual Kung Fu, my sexual energy was still strong, but balanced. It was the first time in my life I was happy to be a man sexually because I finally had control over my sexual energy.”

 

A similar thing happens to us when we quit porn. The energy builds up in our head and genitals from days and nights of sexual fantasy and sexually charged surroundings and this energy if not channeled properly will lead us to porn, prostitutes and masturbation.

 

We live in a world which is filled with stress, tension, and anxiety, and most of the time we live in our heads and forget our bodies. We do so much of chronic thinking that all of our life force or life energy is accumulated in our head. If it builds up in our head, we begin to spend more and more time fantasizing about porn, sex, and masturbation. The solution is to circulate this energy, to bring this energy down and we will discuss some of the techniques to do that later.

 

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 to be continued . . . 

We Need To Talk... About Porn!

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We Need To Talk... About Porn!

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You see, pornography affects all of us. It's not a question of if you get exposed, but when.

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Viewing pornography changes your brain. That's right, it actually CHANGES YOUR BRAIN.

When you see pornography your brain is over-exposed with chemicals,
the same chemicals that are released with hard drugs.

They make you come back for more. Overtime your brain starts to rewire itself.

And it doesn't take long until you crave it. You have to see more.

You're addicted. And that ADDICTION takes over your life.

It takes you away from your friends, your family, everything you love.

Addiction doesn't care who you are. It doesn't think about your future.

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Premature Ejaculation Remedy

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Many men are in search for the perfect premature ejaculation remedy, however, there are many considerations when it comes to this unique problem. The defining characteristics of premature ejaculation include ejaculating prior to sexual intercourse or before ejaculation is desired by the individual and his sexual partner. It is not uncommon for some to falsely confuse this with the medical condition erectile dysfunction (ED). Although the two may occur together, premature ejaculation can occur without ED.
Define the cause. Finding a premature ejaculation (PE) remedy that works best often involves getting to the source of the problem. A few things he should consider is whether or not this is an occasional issue or if it occurs on a regular basis. The individual circumstances and sexual history may also provide insight into the problem. In some cases, the cause is related to psychological concerns, such as anxiety or stress. Medical causes which may play a role include erectile dysfunction, conditions affecting the urethra or prostate and changes in hormones. The remedy for premature ejaculation should be based upon the cause.
Understand the methods that may be available. From lifestyle changes to treating an underlying health conditions, the types of premature ejaculation remedies can differ significantly. A few of the more common may include masturbation prior to initiating intercourse, distraction and sometimes even psychotherapy or sex therapy. Statistics also indicate that antidepressants and over-the-counter desensitizing creams and lotions have proven effective as a premature ejaculation remedy. He should keep in mind though, there are side effects associated with these products and medications and they are not suitable for everyone.
Pursue different remedies. What works for one individual may not work as well for another. He should not assume that if the first intervention is unsuccessful, that this will always be the case. The premature ejaculation remedy chosen should fit his lifestyle and unique needs. In some cases, a multi-modal approach may be necessary. Involving a primary care physician is highly recommended for PE. Not only can the physician recommend treatment, but he can help rule out potential medical causes that could be to blame.

How to Stop Masturbation 2

Masturbation is defined as the manual stimulation of the male or female genitals, not by sexual intercourse, designed to produce an orgasm. Masturbation is totally forbidden in Shari'ah.

One of the most humiliating problems that the constant male masturbator suffers from when he attempts to have sexual relations is premature ejaculation or the failure to maintain an erection. When a person is masturbating, he tends to reach his orgasm as quickly as possible but in sexual intercourse, he normally has to attempt to control his excitement which can impose a great strain on those who indulge in self abuse over a lengthy period.

Those who achieve insufficient satisfaction from sexual intercourse and return to masturbation or never give it up suffer a great torment. Sex life is empty for them, which leads to many more problems, marital disputes, divorce, etc.

Therefore, people who continuously masturbate lose out all round. The physical pleasure becomes reduced to a natural act like urinating or excreting and at the back of their minds there is an awareness that they are missing out on the real pleasures of life. No adult can honestly claim to masturbate without a guilty feeling of complete uselessness. Masturbation is merely an exhaustive rather than constructive undertaking resulting in nothing but total loss. Once orgasm has been achieved, there is nothing left except a feeling of complete emptiness.

Steps in overcoming masturbation

Be assured that you can be cured of your difficulty. Many have been, both male and female. And you can also be cured if you determine that it must be so. If you want to give it up, you need will power and determination. Rasulullah [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] said, 'The Niyyat of a believer is better than the act.'

This determination is the first step. That is where we begin. Firstly, you must decide that you will end this practice and when you make that decision, the problem will be greatly reduced at once. But it must be more than a hope or a wish more than knowing that it is good for you. You must realize that this is a great evil and you have to want to give it up.

It must be actually a decision. If you truly make up your mind that you will be cured, then you will have the strength to resist any tendencies which you may have and any temptations which may come to you. Ask Allah to help you and give you strength and steadfastness to succeed.

After you have made this decision then observe the following specific guidelines.

Guidelines

1. First step is to realize that you are violating Allah's command and you are bringing upon yourself a life long destruction and harm.

2. Never touch the intimate parts of your body unnecessarily.

3. Avoid being alone as much as possible. Find good company and stay in this good company. Remember, an idle mind is the devil's (Shaytaan) workshop.

4. If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, you must break off their friendship. Never associate with other people having the same weakness. Don't suppose that both of you will quit together, you never will. You must get away from people of that kind. Just to be in their presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind.

The problem must be taken out of your mind for that is where it really exists. Your mind must be on other and more wholesome things. It is mentioned in a Hadith that a person is upon the way of his friend. (Bukhari, Tirmizi)

5. When you bath, do so as quick as possible.

6. When in bed, if that is where you have your problem for the most part, dress yourself for the night so securely that you cannot easily touch your vital parts so that it would be difficult and time consuming for you to remove those clothes. By the time you started to remove protective clothing, you would have sufficiently controlled your thinking and the temptation would leave you.
If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed, engage in something useful. The purpose behind this suggestion is that you focus your mind on something else. You are the subject of your thoughts, so to speak.

7. Never look at pornographic material.

8. The attitude of the individual has an effect on how easy it is to overcome. It is essential that a firm commitment be made to control this habit. The person must first realize the evil of this act. Secondly he must understand the reason for this behavior.

After these 2 steps, the individual needs to become sensitive to the situations and conditions which may cause a person to commit this vile act. Hence a person must guard himself from anything, which may trigger a desire for this act. By following these steps, a person gains the ability to gain victory from this act, hence the power to control this filthy practice is developed. Remember you need also a bit of will-power.

ADVICES

1. MAKE Duaa daily; seek help from Allah, this will strengthen you against temptation.

2. Follow a program of vigorous daily exercises. The exercise reduces emotional tension and depression and is absolutely basic to the solution to this problem. Double your physical activity when you feel stress increasing.

3. When the temptation to masturbate is strong, turn your thoughts away from the selfish need to indulge.

4. Set goals of abstinence. Begin with a day, then a week, a month, a year and finally commit to never doing it again. Till you don't commit yourself, to never indulging yourself in this vile act, you'll always be open to temptation.

6. Begin to work daily on a self-improvement program. Strive to enhance your strengths and talents.

7. Be aware of situations that depress you or that cause you to feel lonely, bored, frustrated or discouraged, these emotional states can trigger the desire to masturbate as a way of escape. Plan in advance to counter these low periods through various activities, such as reading a Kitab, visiting a friend, doing something athletic, etc.

8. Start frequenting the Musjid. Make it a daily practice to recite part of the Quraan. Find out about authentic books which you can read from your local Aalim.

9. Make a pocket calendar for a month on a small card. Carry it with you. Color the day on which you masturbate black. The calendar becomes a strong visual reminder of self-control and should be looked at when you are tempted to add another black day. Keep your calendar up until you have at least three clear months.

10. A careful study will indicate you have had the problem at certain times and under certain conditions. Try and recall in detail what your particular times and conditions were. Now that you understand how it happens, plan to break the pattern through counter activities.

11. In the field of psychotherapy, there is a very effective technique called aversion therapy .When we associate or think of something very distasteful with something which has been pleasurable, but undesirable, the distasteful thought and feeling will begin to cancel out that which was pleasurable. If you associate something very distasteful with your loss of self control, it will help you to stop the act. For example, if you are tempted to masturbate, think of having to bathe in a tub of worms, and eat several of them as you do the act.

17. Do not let yourself return to any past habit or attitude patterns which were part of your problem. Shaytaan never gives up. Keep a positive mental attitude and always stay on guard. You can win this fight! The joy and strength you will feel when you do, will give your whole life a radiant and spiritual glow of satisfaction and fulfillment.