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(1)Dreams from Allah سبحانه و تعالى: There are only two types of instructions. One are those for dreams that are meaningful (type 1) and those which are for dreams that are meaningless (type 2 and type 3). All the references are there in the bouquet of Ahadith quoted.
As a summary one is supposed to do the following on experiencing a dream of Type 1: (a) Praise Allah for the good dream
(b) Feel Happy about it
(c) Don't talk about it those whom you dislike
(d) Narrate it to someone whom you love or a wise person
(e) Try and Narrate it to your loved one on the morning following the night you saw the dream. or as soon as you see the dream.
(2)Dreams from Shaitan OR (3)Dreams from Nafs: These are useless dreams and on having these we are advised to :
(a) Seek refuge with Allah سبحانه و تعالى from the evil of the dream
(b) Seek refuge with Allah سبحانه و تعالى from the evil of Shaitan
(c) Spit to his left three times (without saliva) on waking up
(d) Say two voluntary rakah on waking up
(e) Ask Allah سبحانه و تعالى for a good dream
(f) Turn over the side on which you were lying previously
(g) Not mention it to anyone
(h) Have a firm belief that it was a meaningless dream and it will not harm you
IN THE LAST few pages, matters
relating to actual play have been discussed in considerable detail, from
privacy up to ejaculation. There now remains certain other forms of sex, so it
is important to understand the Islamic viewpoint on them.
1) Anal Sex
It was discussed earlier in the section on sexual
positions that it is permitted for the couple to choose any position they like
for sex, but subject to one condition, that it must be vaginal sex.
As far as anal sex is
concerned, it is categorically forbidden in Islam and is a major sin by
consensus because of the explicit texts clearly establishing this. There are
also grave spiritual and established physical and psychological harms in anal
sex. It is an unnatural and repulsive act that simply has no
place in a Muslim's sex life. It is a practice of those whose nature has been distorted to prefer
that which is filthy to that which is pure. Not only is anal sex sinful and
harmful, it also violates the right of the wife, who is entitled to having
offspring through vaginal sex with her spouse. Allah Most High says:
"They ask you concerning
menstruation. Say: "It is an impurity. So keep away from women during menstruation; and
do not approach them until they are cleansed. But when they are cleansed, then approach
them from where Allah has commanded you. Surely Allah loves those who are most
repenting, and loves those who keep themselves pure.
Your wives are tillage for you
to cultivate. So approach your tillage from where you wish, but do some good act
for yourselves beforehand; and fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him,
and give glad tidings to the believers."
(Qur'an 2: 222-223)
In the above verses, Allah Most
High gives impurity as the reason for prohibiting sex during menstruation. Once
a woman is cleansed from the impurity of blood, Allah Most High permits having
sex with her but "from where Allah has commanded you" meaning in the
vagina. This is further elucidated in the term "harth" used in
the second verse. As vaginal sex is prohibited during menstruation because of
temporary filth, being menstrual blood, then anal sex is undoubtedly unlawful since
the anus is always polluted with filth.
Moreover, the term harth (tillage)
indicates that it is only permissible to have sex with one's wife in the
vagina, as this is the only route through which the seeds are cultivated, and
not the anus, since it is a place of filth and impurity. (Al-Tibb al-Nabawi P:
187)
The Messenger of Allah (sa)also emphatically prohibited anal sex in many hadiths.mSayyiduna 'Abdullah ibn Abbas (r).
relates that the Messenger of Allah (sa)said:
"Allah shall not [even]
look [with kindness] at any man who enters another man or a woman in the
anus." (Sunan al-Tirmidhi 1165)
Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (r) relates
that the Messenger of Allah (sa)said:
"Cursed is he, who enters
a woman in her anus." ( Sunan Abi Dawud 2155 and others)
The meaning of "being
cursed (mal’un)" is that one is distant from Divine Mercy, and an
object of Divine Dislike. The Messenger of Allah (sa) cursed certain
matters so that we take heed and avoid them. Sayyiduna Khuzayma ibn Thabit (r)relates that the Messenger of Allah (sa)said:
"Allah is not ashamed of
the truth [saying this thrice]. Do not enter women in their anuses." (Sunan
Ibn Majah 1924, Musnad Ahmad & others)
Sayyiduna Aba Hurayra (r)relates that the Messenger of Allah (sa)said:
"Allah shall not look
[with kindness] at a man who enters his wife in the anus." (Sunan Ibn Majah
1923, Musnad Ahmad and others)
These, and many other,
evidences are clear in the prohibition of anal sex even with one's own wife.
This is in addition to the fact that anal sex causes undue pain and is a source
of many diseases widespread in today's promiscuous society.
As such, it is unlawful and
sinful for the husband to penetrate in his wife's anus. However, it is
permitted for him, under normal circumstances, to touch the surrounding and
outside area of the anus, even by rubbing his penis in between her buttocks or
groin, as long as there is no penetration and as long as that area is not
soiled with filth.
The husband is permitted to touch and caress any part of his
wife's body which includes the area outside of the anus. This, however, is only
permitted if he is certain of avoiding penetration, otherwise abstaining from
that area altogether is necessary. (See: Mughni al-Muhtaj 3:181, Hashiya
al-Dasuqi 'ala' 'l-Sharh al-Kabir 2:342 and Usul al-Mu'ashara
alZawjiyya P: 82)
We have discussed the general
Islamic guidelines concerning foreplay. However, there are new methods of
foreplay and sexual stimulation, and it is important to understand the Islamic viewpoint concerning them.
1) Using Sex Aids and Toys
A sex aid is an object used to
trigger or enhance sexual arousal or orgasm that a couple can use in
masturbation or other sexual activity. Some of the most common are dildos,
vibrators, clitoral stimulators, extension condoms, vaginal balls and various
creams and lotions.
Among Muslim couples, the use
of sex aids is an increasingly common method of enhancing sexual performance,
but Islamically, certain things need to be considered.
a) The Shari'a does not permit
one to harm oneself. As such, if a sex aid harms either of the two spouses, it
is not permitted to use it. It is necessary that the aid not cause any harm whatsoever to either spouse.
b) Certain aids are figures in
the form of animate life. Such aids are not permitted to use, as picture-making
(taswir) is unlawful.
c) Using lubricants, lotions,
gels and creams is permitted, without dislike, provided they cause no harm.
d) Using an aid such as a vibrator
to stimulate any part of the body except the private parts, or to stimulate the
outer private parts of the wife, including her clitoris, is also permitted. The
proviso here is that it must be used by one's spouse and not by the person
themselves. To use such aids alone as a means of alleviating one's loneliness
is sinful, and would be considered a form of masturbation. As such, if it is
feared that using aids with one's spouse would lead one into using them when alone,
then they must be avoided.
e) Inserting a vibrator or a
dildo into the inner-private parts of the wife for her to have an orgasm is not
permitted, even if the husband uses it on her. Likewise, it is not permitted for the
husband to use aids such as masturbators and realistic vaginas to ejaculate,
even if he is accompanied by his wife. The Shari'a allows the couple to derive
benefit from any part of each other's bodies, as explained earlier, but does
not permit them to masturbate in front of each other using another object. It is akin to a woman holding an object for her husband
to masturbate with until he ejaculates. Clearly, this is not permitted.
Using sex aids can have adverse
effects on the relationship. The man can become lazy, it may prevent
husband-wife bonding that natural sexual relations provide, and it can cause
the wife to consider her husband incapable of satisfying her naturally and lose
respect for him. As such, it is best to avoid using sex aids altogether,
whether the intention is to spice up one's relations or even to use it as a
last resort.
2) Bondage and Flogging
Bondage is a sexual practice in
which "pleasure" is gained by means of one partner being physically
restrained or tied up. It can be a way of defining active and passive sexual roles.
Restraints used include handcuffs, ropes, shackles, belts, chains, blindfolds
and collars. Flogging is the act of whipping, spanking and generally inflicting
pain on one's partner for sexual arousal.
Islamically, these acts are to
be avoided as they go against sound human disposition (fitra). Islam instructs the husband to
be extremely gentle and tender towards his wife, let alone inflict pain on her.
The Mercy to both worlds "- forbade men from being cruel to their wives and
hurting them saying, "One of you beats his wife as he would beat a slave,
and then he may have sex with her in the evening!" (Sahih alBukhar'i 4658 and Sahih Muslim 2855)
Moreover, the basis of marital
relations is that they are to be lived "in a good way" (bi'l-ma'ruf),
as Allah Most High tells us in the Qur'an. Each spouse strives to give the
other their rights - including the fulfilment of their sexual needs - but
within the boundaries of what can be considered to be "in a good
way".
