What is forbidden in Islam- Homosexuality or practicing Homosexuality?
The common concept for Muslim homosexuals is to commit
suicide since they can't be punished for being homosexuals in a
non-Islamic state, but two wrongs don't make one right. While
homosexuality is wrong, it doesn't justify suicide under any conditions
or circumstances. Please know that if you ever commit suicide, you would
have seriously misunderstood Islam and its spirit. If you were ever
involved in sexual homosexual acts in the past, you should truly and
sincerely repent to Allah, The Merciful, The Gracious, and pledge to Him
never to get involved in any homosexual acts anymore. Please note that
there is a difference to actually being involved in a homosexual act
-which is a sin - from having sexual feelings that you try to control,
that you don't express in public, which is not sinful if you try to
control them. If medical or psychological counseling helps, then get it,
but know that Allah is The Curer, and the Qur'an is your best
companion. Give charity, pray, make dua', and Allah will not leave you
alone. You have got to believe in the infinite amount of Mercy Allah
provides to His servants, and you should also realize that He forgives,
if He wishes, all types of sins, except the sin of disbelieving in Him.
What is sinful in homosexuality is the actual sexual act
between the couple of a similar sex. if you transform your desires into
a struggle and a challenge to overcome it and not physically commit it,
then insha'Allah, you will get the reward for it.
Don't lose hope! Fear Allah (S.W.T), ask Him for help
earnestly, never give up, and do something to get rid of even the idea
of homosexuality. Try to avoid all of the circumstances that trigger
your homosexual feelings: don't get alone with an attractive man, always
be in the company of others, don't get involved in deep / personal
discussions with any person that you may think will trigger your
homosexual feeling. Stay away from any other people who have similar
feelings. Don't even think in such an idea of this subject, keep
yourself busy in different useful thing, and stay away of anything that
remind you of homosexuality. Keep a POSITIVE thinking in your mind and
keep saying to yourself that you can do something about it. Don't ever
say I can't. Remember with every step you are taking toward getting rid
of this habit you are getting help and reward from Allah (S.W.T) and you
are annoying the shaytan.
Also for many Homosexual Muslims the concept of getting
married is unappealing. Having this feeling should not prevent you from
considering to get married in the future. You will discover that
marriage is more than simply fulfilling your sexual needs... Your wife
will insha'Allah bring you peace, tranquility, joy, security, and many
other feelings that every human being needs, irrelevant of their "sexual
partners". Also, while Muslims are not allowed to lie, you should keep
this feeling to yourself and not share it with her or your parents for
many reasons... Be patient and make it a lifelong struggle for
yourself... You will see how rewarding it is at the end... Remember,
there is in this world many compulsive gamblers, alcoholics, adulterers,
thieves, but many of them control it and refrain from doing it... If
they aren't Muslims and have the will to do it, you are a Muslim and you
have Allah on your side when you seek His Help. There is no way you
will fail insha'Allah...
