Dreams of Sahaba

Set of References for Learning How to Differentiate between types of dreams

Posted by Mohammad Awais Tahir 

This is a list of Ayaat of Holy Qur'an and the Ahadith of Prophet Muhammad SAW. This set of references will aid us in understanding the subject of dreams better. This set of references has been collected in order to understand better how to differentiate between the different types of dreams.

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Differentiating Between Dreams from Allah, Shaitan and Nafs

 

Dreams of Sahaba

(41) Narrated Ibn 'Umar: Some people were shown the Night of Qadr as being in the last seven days (of the month of Ramadan). The Prophet said, "Seek it in the last seven days (of Ramadan)"

(Sahih Al Bukhari)

(42) Um al-'Ala said: "(regarding Usman bin Maz'un) By Allah, I will never attest the righteousness of anybody after that." She added: "Later I saw in a dream a flowing spring for 'Uthman. So I went to Allah's Apostle and mentioned that to him. He said, that is (the symbol of) his good deeds (the reward for) which is going on for him."

(Sahih Al Bukhari)

(43) Narrated Ibn 'Umar: Men from the companions of Allah's Apostle used to see dreams during the lifetime of Allah's Apostle and they used to narrate those dreams to Allah's Apostle. Allah's Apostle would interpret them as Allah wished. I was a young man and used to stay in the masjid before my wedlock. I said to myself: "If there were any good in myself, I too would see what these people see." So when I went to bed one night, I said: "O Allah! If you see any good in me, show me a good dream." So while I was in that state, there came to me (in a dream) two angels. In the hand of each of them there was a mace of iron, and both of them were taking me to Hell, and I was between them, invoking Allah: "O Allah! I seek refuge with You from Hell." Then I saw myself being confronted by another angel holding a mace of iron in his hand. He said to me: "Do not be afraid, you will be an excellent man if you only pray more often." So they took me till they stopped me at the edge of Hell, and behold, it was built inside like a well and it had side posts like those of a well, and beside each post there was an angel carrying an iron mace. I saw therein many people hanging upside down with iron chains, and I recognized therein some men from the Quraish. Then (the angels) took me to the right side. I narrated this dream to (my sister) Hafsa. Hafsa told me that she had mentioned it to the Prophet and he said: "Abdullah is a righteous man, if only he would pray more at night." (Az-Zuhri said: "After that 'Abdullah used to pray more at night.")

(Sahih Al Bukhari)

(44) Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: A man came to Allah's Apostle and said: "I saw in a dream, a cloud having shade. Butter and honey were dropping from it and I saw the people gathering it in their hands, some gathering much and some a little. And behold, there was a rope extending from the earth to the sky, and I saw that you (the Prophet) held it and went up, and then another man held it and went up and (after that) another (third) held it and went up, and then after another (fourth) man held it, but it broke and then got connected again."

(Sahih Al Bukhari)

(45) Narrated Qais bin 'Ubada: I was sitting in a gathering in which there was Sa'd bin Malik and Ibn 'Umar. 'Abdullah bin Salam passed in front of them and they said: "This man is from the people of Paradise." I said to 'Abdullah bin Salam: "They said so-and-so." He replied: "Subhan Allah! They ought not to have said things of which they have no knowledge, but I saw (in a dream) that a post was fixed in a green garden. At the top of the post there was a handhold and below it there was a servant. I was asked to climb (the post). So I climbed it till I got hold of the handhold." Then I narrated this dream to Allah's Apostle. Allah's Apostle said: "Abdullah will die while still holding the firm reliable handhold (i.e., Islam)."

(Sahih Al Bukhari)

(46) Narrated Ibn 'Umar: Some people were shown the Night of Qadr as being in the last seven days (of the month of Ramadan). The Prophet said, "Seek it in the last seven days (of Ramadan)." 

(Sahih Al Bukhari) 

(47) Narrated 'Abdullah bin Salam: (In a dream) I saw myself in a garden, and there was a pillar in the middle of the garden, and there was a handhold at the top of the pillar. I was asked to climb it. I said: "I cannot." Then a servant came and lifted up my clothes and I climbed (the pillar), and then got hold of the handhold, and I woke up while still holding it. I narrated that to the Prophet who said: "The garden symbolizes the garden of Islam, and the handhold is the firm Islamic handhold which indicates that you will be adhering firmly to Islam until you die."

(Sahih Al Bukhari)

(48) Narrated Ibn 'Umar: I saw in a dream a piece of silken cloth in my hand, and in whatever direction in Paradise I waved it, it flew, carrying me there. I narrated this (dream) to (my sister) Hafsa and she told it the Prophet who said (to Hafsa): "Indeed, your brother is a righteous man," or, "Indeed, 'Abdullah is a righteous man."

(Sahih Al Bukhari)

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9. AFTER PLAY - Islamic Guide To Sexual Relations

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-9- AFTER PLAY

ISLAMIC TEACHINGS WITH regard to sexual relations do not end at the termination of intercourse between the spouses, they go much beyond that. The time after having sex, which could be termed as "after play", is as important as foreplay and sex itself. There are many important rulings and etiquettes that need to kept in mind in this regard.

1)   Being Affectionate

After achieving sexual climax, both spouses should remain in their positions for a while before separating from one another. Islam teaches couples to be considerate and compassionate to one another at all times, and not only whilst having sex. A husband who is insensitive and unresponsive after sex will appear to his wife as though his interest in her is only in sexual gratification. As such, he should ensure that there are kind and affectionate exchanges, even after having sex.

2)   Cleanliness and Purification

After having sex, both spouses should clean their genital areas with clean pieces of cloth or tissue. If they had placed a sheet or cloth below them before having sex, which is recommended, that may be used in cleaning themselves, otherwise a separate cloth may be used.

Imam Ibn Qudama states in his Al-Mughn'i, "It is recommended (mustahab) for the wife to keep a piece of cloth with her that her husband can use after having sex and wipe himself with it, as Sayyida 'A'isha (r) said: "An astute woman should keep a piece of cloth with her. After her husband has sex with her, she should give it to him, so that he may wipe himself and she may wipe herself with it." (Al-Mughni" 8: 136)

Cleanliness after sex is of utmost importance. Some Muslim couples are extremely negligent in this regard, ignoring the fact that their bed-sheet and clothes may have become impure. It is strongly encouraged to lay a separate sheet of clothing specifically for sex, which can be put in the washing afterwards. If sexual fluids have come into contact with one's clothes or body parts, they must be purified with water before praying, otherwise, one's prayer will be invalid. The bedding should also be changed after having sex if sexual fluids have come into contact with it.

Couples need to remember that pre-ejaculatory fluid (madhy) is impure according to all the classical scholars. Madhy is "A thin white fluid that exits without force from a man or woman when sexually aroused but is not accompanied by an ejaculation". It can often be released without one being aware of it, and is more prevalent in women than men. Madhy only necessitates a ritual ablution (wudu) but is legally considered impure (najis), and so has to be washed if one's body or clothing is affected by it. Imam Nawawi: states that the whole Muslim Umma are in unanimous agreement that Madhy is impure. (See: Hashiya al-Tahtawi 'ala Maraqi al-Falah P:100, Al-Majmil' Sharh al-Muhadhdhab 2:395 & Al-Mughni 1:162)

As far as semen (many) is concerned, it is defined with respect to men as "A thick white fluid that gushes out with force from the penis causing it to slacken and reduce in size." With respect to women, it is the thin and yellow ejaculatory fluid. Many is the fluid with which Allah Most High Creates human beings. Allah Most High says:

"Does man think that he will be left unchecked? Was he not an ejaculated drop of semen (many)? Then he became a clot of blood, then He [Allah] Created [him] and made [him] perfect, and of him He made two sexes, male and female. Has He no power [then] to give life to the dead?"

(Qur'an 75:36-40)

There is a difference of opinion between classical scholars in regards to whether semen is impure or not. The Hanafi and Maliki schools consider it impure and require it to be cleansed from one's body and clothes. Conversely, the Shafi’i School and also the Hanbali School [according to the more authentic position related from Imam Ahmad] consider semen to be pure. However, all the Schools agree that the emission of semen necessitates a ritual bath (ghush for both the man and the woman. (Tahtaw'i 'ala Maraqi al-Falah P: 96 and Radd al-Muhtar: 312-314 for the Hanafi School, Al-Majmu' Sharh al-Muhadhdhab 1:395-396 for the Shafi'i School, Al-Mughni 1:197 & 1:735 for the Hanball School, and Hashiya al-Dasuqi 'ala 'l-Sharh, al-Kabir 1:92 for the Maliki’ School

3)   Urinating

It is recommended from a medical point of view to urinate after having sex. This allows

the remaining drops of semen to come out of one's system. One should avoid using exceedingly cold water when washing the private parts, since this can be harmful. (See: Ihya' 'Ulum al-Din with its commentary lthaf al-Sadat al-Mattaqin 6: 184, and Adab-e-Mubashrat P:28)

Source: Islamic Guide To Sexual Relations

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Watching Pornography - Islamic Guide To Sexual Relations

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5) Watching Pornography

Is it permitted for a couple to watch pornographic material to stimulate sexual arousal before sex? The answer to this question is an absolute and emphatic "no".

Pornography, whether in the form of motion picture films, movies, novels, plays, pictures or photographs, is without doubt unlawful, shameful and sinful. Islam clearly forbids looking at nudity or watching others have sex. Allah Most High says:

"Say to the believing men that they must lower their gazes and guard their private parts; it is more decent for them. Surely Allah is All-Aware of what they do. And say to the believing women that they must lower their gazes and guard their private parts [ ... ]"

(Qur'an 24:30-31)

In these verses, both men and women are ordered to lower their gazes to avoid seeing the nakedness of others. Even if one's gaze were to fall unintentionally on the nakedness of another, one would be required to look away instantaneously.

Sayyiduna jarir ibn 'Abdullah (r) relates:

"I asked the Messenger of Allah (sa) about an accidental glance, and he commanded me to avert my gaze." (Sahih Muslim 2159 & Sunan al-Tirmidhi 2776, the wording is of Tirmidhi)

Imam Nawawi, in his commentary of the above hadith, says, "The meaning of an "accidental glance" is that a person's glance unintentionally falls upon a non-mahram woman. There is no sin on him for the first glance, but he must avert his gaze immediately. If he averts his gaze immediately, then there is no sin on him, but if he continues looking, he will be sinful due to this hadith, since the Messenger of Allah (sa) commanded the Companion to avert his gaze, and Allah Most High says, "Say to the believing men that they must lower their gazes and guard their private parts." (Al-Minhaj Sharh Sahih Muslim P: 1618)

Moreover, Sayyiduna Abu Sa'id al-Khudri (r) relates that the Messenger of Allah (sa) said:

"A man must not look at the nakedness of another man, and a woman must not look at the nakedness of another woman ... "  

(Sunan al-Tirmidhi 2793)

Jarhad al-Aslami (r) relates that the Messenger of Allah (sa) passed by him whilst his thigh was exposed. The Messenger of Allah (sa) said:

"Cover your thigh, for the thigh is from the nakedness [which must be concealed]."

(Sunan al-Tirmidhi 2798)

Pornographic films do not help a couple's sex life, rather, they destroy it. Pornography is a highly addictive disease that leads invariably to the vice of self-abuse and masturbation. Watching nudity makes men and women incapable of being stimulated from one another naturally. They find it difficult to be aroused by their spouses, whilst they are easily aroused by pornography. This is why pornography is the most common cause for psychological impotence in the world. Muslim couples accustomed to pornography must realize that habitually watching porn will eventually lead to problems in their sex lives. As such, they must at once stop this disgraceful, perverted and immodest habit, if they are to have a prosperous martial life.

6) Cross-Dressing and Transvestism

Cross-dressing basically means dressing in the clothing, under-clothing and sometimes make-up associated with the opposite sex. If cross ­dressing is for sexual reasons, it is called "transvestism". A transvestite derives sexual pleasure from dressing or masquerading in the clothing of the opposite sex. In most cases, the motivation behind transvestism is a form of fetishistic attraction to the clothing and accoutrements of the opposite sex, but it may also have to do with an attraction to the gender role of the opposite sex, symbolised by their clothes. As such, a husband who wears his wife's clothes or underwear, or a wife who dresses up in her husband's clothing or underwear is known as a transvestite.

There is no place for cross-dressing or transvestism in Islam. Playing the role, assuming the character-traits, and wearing the clothes of the opposite gender is severely frowned upon and cursed.

Sayyiduna 'Abdullah ibn Abbas (r) relates:

'The Messenger of Allah (sa) cursed those men who imitate women and those women who imitate men." 

(Sahih al-Bukhairi 5546)

'Abdullah ibn Abbas (r) also relates:

'The Messenger of Allah (sa) cursed effeminate men and masculine women, and said, "Throw them out of your houses." He [Ibn Abbas] said, 'The Messenger of Allah (sa) expelled so and so, and 'Umar expelled so and so."  

(Sahih al-Bukhairi 5547)

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (r) relates:

'The Messenger of Allah (sa) cursed the man who wears women's clothes, and the woman who wears men's clothes."  

(Sunan Abi Dawud 4095)

Imam Ibn Hajar al-'Asqalani states in his commentary of Sahih al­Bukhari that it is unlawful for men to imitate women in their dress, adornment, manner of speech and body movements, and vice versa. As far as dress is concerned, he states, this depends on the customs of one's city. Some cultures may not distinguish between men and women's clothing but rather women are distinguished with their hijab and outer cloak [as such, wearing such unisex clothing would be permitted]. As far as the manner of speech and body movements are concerned, only someone who does this deliberately is to be blamed; whilst someone who was created in such a manner is not to be blamed, but he is expected to gradually change his behaviour. If he fails to try and change himself, then he is to be blamed, especially if he is content with such behaviour. Yes, despite trying, if he is unable to change himself, then he is not to be blamed. (Fath al-Bar'i Sharh Sahih al-Bukhari 10:409)

It is clear from the above that it is sinful to intentionally dress like the opposite gender or to assume the character traits of the opposite gender. The evil of such behaviour affects both the individual and society at large, and is a rebellion against the natural ordering of things. There are men and there are women, and each gender has its distinctive characteristics. If men become effeminate and women masculinised, the natural order is reversed and will disintegrate.

Therefore, during sexual relations and foreplay, it is sinful for a husband to act the role of the wife by dressing in her clothes or underwear, and vice versa. The man should be a man and play the role of a man, and the woman must remain a woman and play her own role. Reversing the roles during sexual foreplay is not only sinful and degrading, but it will have a direct influence on the couple's relationship outside of the bedroom.

7) Urolagnia

Urolagnia is an abnormal sexual fetish in which participants derive sexual pleasure from urine and urination. It is a "sexual" act, used as a means of foreplay, which involves one partner urinating "golden shower" over the other partner. Some even go to the extent of drinking their partner's urine!

A sound, normal human being cannot even imagine anyone deriving pleasure from urine and filth. It is a sick and perverted fetish that can never be allowed in Islam. The basis of Islam is cleanliness and purity (tahara). The collections of hadith and books of fiqh are filled with pages dedicated to the rules of avoiding filth. Tahara is the first issue that is addressed in almost every hadith and fiqh work. Purity is half of one's faith and the key to prayer. A believer must remain pure and love pure things, and avoid and dislike impure and filth.

As such, urinating over one's spouse as part of sexual foreplay is, without doubt, impermissible and sinful. Not avoiding splashes of urine is a cause of punishment in the grave. Sayyiduna 'Abdullah ibn Abbas (r) relates:

'The Messenger of Allah (sa) once passed by two graves and said, 'They [in the grave] are being punished not for a great thing to avoid" Then he added, ''Yes, [they are being punished for a great sin], for one of them used to go about with calumnies, while the other never saved himself from the splashes of urine." Ibn Abbas says, "Then he (sa) took a wet green leaf and split it into two pieces, then placed one piece on each of the two graves and said, 'Their punishment may decrease until these two pieces become dry." 

(Sahih al-Bukhar'i 1312)

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (r) relates that the Messenger of Allah (sa) said,

"Avoid [the splashes of] urine, for indeed the punishment of the grave is generally due to it." (Sunan al-Daraqutn'i 1:12 8)

According to the jurists of the various schools of Islamic law, it is obligatory to avoid filth except when there is a need, such as cleaning the filth after relieving oneself. This is even more important in the case of urine, since it is decisively filthy and impure. One must avoid smearing oneself with filth in general and with urine in particular. (Hanafi Tahtaw'i 'ala Maraq'i al-Falah P: 152 and Al-Fatawa al-Hind'iyya 1: 50, Maliki’ Hashiya al-Dasuq'i 'ala 'l-Sharh al-Kabir 1: 110, Shafi'i Mughn'I al-Muhtaj 1:127 and Hanbal1: Al-Mughn'i 1:141)

Source: Islamic Guide To Sexual Relations

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