1 – Lower your gaze and avoid looking at forbidden things.
That
includes not looking at women on the TV, for the pictures of women that are
shown on the TV are one of the greatest causes of temptation and
provocation of desire.
Forbidden looks are one of the arrows of the
Satan. If you are fulfilling your desire by means of the secret habit
now, you will not be able to control this desire and prevent yourself from
satisfying it by means of other major sins that are even more serious, such
as homosexuality and adultry.
2 – Avoiding being alone.
The wolf only eats the sheep that strays away from the flock, and the Satan gains control over the man who is on his own, but he is further away from two and even further away from three.
3 – Fast a great deal.
This is the advice to young men who are unable to get married. Fasting is a way of disciplining oneself, lowering the gaze and guarding one's chastity.
4 – Making a lot of du’aa’,
Praying for forgiveness and glorifying Allaah. Whoever keeps himself busy with this, the Satan will have no way to tempt him and lead him astray.
5 – Praying
sincerely that Allaah will keep you away from forbidden things and whatever leads to them
6 – Keeping company with righteous people.
A righteous friend will only show you the way to good
“And your Lord said: Invoke Me [i.e. believe in My Oneness and ask Me for anything] I will respond to your
(invocation)”
Marriage
is the natural solution for controlling temptations and when we think of alternatives we think
of them as being temporary.
There are two things which will help to combat the effects of desire:
1.
Strengthening that which prevents us from giving into it. This
includes strengthening our faith, fearing Allaah and His punishment,
strengthening our resolve and will-power, and understanding the consequences
of following our desires, in this world and the next.
2.
Weakening the motives, which is achieved by fasting and by keeping
away from that which provokes desire, foremost among which is looking
at forbidden things and keeping bad company.
Self control is the ability to control one's emotions, behavior, and desires in order to obtain some reward, or avoid some punishment.
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