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5. PREPARING FOR SEXUAL RELATIONS
TO MAINTAIN A healthy sexual relationship,
it is vital to prepare psychologically and physically for sexual relations.
Preparing for sex is as important as sex itself. Both spouses should take care
to prepare themselves for sex to enjoy their union to the full extent. Being
remiss in this could have detrimental consequences.
It was a habit of the Messenger
of Allah (sa) to clean his mouth and teeth
with the tooth-stick (siwak) when entering the house to visit his wives.
Shurayh ibn Hani' relates:
"I asked 'A'isha (r), "What did the Messenger of Allah (s) do first when he entered his house?" She
replied, "Use the Siwak."
(Sahih Muslim 253)
When returning from a long
journey, the Messenger of Allah (sa) and his Companions (r) would not enter their homes at night unexpectedly, rather, they
would give prior notice to allow their wives to prepare themselves for their
returning husbands. Sayyiduna Jabir (r) relates:
''We were with the Messenger of
Allah (sa) on an expedition. When we came
back to Madina, we intended to enter our houses. So he (r) said, ''Wait until we enter in the latter part of the evening so
that a woman with dishevelled hair can comb her hair, and a woman whose husband
has been absent can shave her pubic hair."
(Sahih al-Bukhari 4949
and Sahih Muslim 1928, the wording is of Muslim)
Sayyiduna Jabir (r) also relates that the Messenger of Allah (sa) said:
"When one of you comes
[back from a journey] at night, he should not go to his family as a night
visitor, [but wait] until the woman whose husband has been absent can shave her
pubic hair, and the dishevelled woman can comb her hair."
(Sahih,
al-Bukhari 4948 and Sahih Muslim 1928, the wording is of Muslim)
Imam Abu 'l-Faraj ibn al-Jawzi
states in his Sayd al-Khatir that couples should fix a particular time
of day or night for sexual relations so that both are prepared physically and
psychologically. This not only enhances their pleasure, but will also eliminate
the possibility of either of them being unprepared, whether mentally or
physically. (Sayd al Khatir P: 280)
To Be Continued....
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