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-8- OTHER FORMS OF SEX
IN THE LAST few pages, matters
relating to actual play have been discussed in considerable detail, from
privacy up to ejaculation. There now remains certain other forms of sex, so it
is important to understand the Islamic viewpoint on them.
1) Anal Sex
It was discussed earlier in the section on sexual
positions that it is permitted for the couple to choose any position they like
for sex, but subject to one condition, that it must be vaginal sex.
As far as anal sex is
concerned, it is categorically forbidden in Islam and is a major sin by
consensus because of the explicit texts clearly establishing this. There are
also grave spiritual and established physical and psychological harms in anal
sex. It is an unnatural and repulsive act that simply has no
place in a Muslim's sex life. It is a practice of those whose nature has been distorted to prefer
that which is filthy to that which is pure. Not only is anal sex sinful and
harmful, it also violates the right of the wife, who is entitled to having
offspring through vaginal sex with her spouse. Allah Most High says:
"They ask you concerning
menstruation. Say: "It is an impurity. So keep away from women during menstruation; and
do not approach them until they are cleansed. But when they are cleansed, then approach
them from where Allah has commanded you. Surely Allah loves those who are most
repenting, and loves those who keep themselves pure.
Your wives are tillage for you
to cultivate. So approach your tillage from where you wish, but do some good act
for yourselves beforehand; and fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him,
and give glad tidings to the believers."
(Qur'an 2: 222-223)
In the above verses, Allah Most
High gives impurity as the reason for prohibiting sex during menstruation. Once
a woman is cleansed from the impurity of blood, Allah Most High permits having
sex with her but "from where Allah has commanded you" meaning in the
vagina. This is further elucidated in the term "harth" used in
the second verse. As vaginal sex is prohibited during menstruation because of
temporary filth, being menstrual blood, then anal sex is undoubtedly unlawful since
the anus is always polluted with filth.
Moreover, the term harth (tillage)
indicates that it is only permissible to have sex with one's wife in the
vagina, as this is the only route through which the seeds are cultivated, and
not the anus, since it is a place of filth and impurity. (Al-Tibb al-Nabawi P:
187)
The Messenger of Allah (sa) also emphatically prohibited anal sex in many hadiths.mSayyiduna 'Abdullah ibn Abbas (r).
relates that the Messenger of Allah (sa) said:
"Allah shall not [even]
look [with kindness] at any man who enters another man or a woman in the
anus." (Sunan al-Tirmidhi 1165)
Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (r) relates
that the Messenger of Allah (sa) said:
"Cursed is he, who enters
a woman in her anus." ( Sunan Abi Dawud 2155 and others)
The meaning of "being
cursed (mal’un)" is that one is distant from Divine Mercy, and an
object of Divine Dislike. The Messenger of Allah (sa) cursed certain
matters so that we take heed and avoid them. Sayyiduna Khuzayma ibn Thabit (r) relates that the Messenger of Allah (sa) said:
"Allah is not ashamed of
the truth [saying this thrice]. Do not enter women in their anuses." (Sunan
Ibn Majah 1924, Musnad Ahmad & others)
Sayyiduna Aba Hurayra (r) relates that the Messenger of Allah (sa) said:
"Allah shall not look
[with kindness] at a man who enters his wife in the anus." (Sunan Ibn Majah
1923, Musnad Ahmad and others)
These, and many other,
evidences are clear in the prohibition of anal sex even with one's own wife.
This is in addition to the fact that anal sex causes undue pain and is a source
of many diseases widespread in today's promiscuous society.
As such, it is unlawful and
sinful for the husband to penetrate in his wife's anus. However, it is
permitted for him, under normal circumstances, to touch the surrounding and
outside area of the anus, even by rubbing his penis in between her buttocks or
groin, as long as there is no penetration and as long as that area is not
soiled with filth.
The husband is permitted to touch and caress any part of his wife's body which includes the area outside of the anus. This, however, is only permitted if he is certain of avoiding penetration, otherwise abstaining from that area altogether is necessary. (See: Mughni al-Muhtaj 3:181, Hashiya al-Dasuqi 'ala' 'l-Sharh al-Kabir 2:342 and Usul al-Mu'ashara alZawjiyya P: 82)
The husband is permitted to touch and caress any part of his wife's body which includes the area outside of the anus. This, however, is only permitted if he is certain of avoiding penetration, otherwise abstaining from that area altogether is necessary. (See: Mughni al-Muhtaj 3:181, Hashiya al-Dasuqi 'ala' 'l-Sharh al-Kabir 2:342 and Usul al-Mu'ashara alZawjiyya P: 82)
To Be Continued....
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