READ DISCLAIMER BEFORE PROCEEDING
- 1O- SUMMARY OF RULINGS AND ETIQUETTES
OF SEXUAL RELATIONS
As AN OVERVIEW of the issues
that have been discussed in this book, the following is a summary of acts that
are Islamically recommended (mustahab), disliked (makrah) and
prohibited (haram):
RECOMMENDED ACTS
1)
Engaging in sexual relations with correct intentions and
objectives in mind.
2)
Approaching sexual relations with moderation.
3)
Engaging in sex in a state of relaxation and temperamental
balance.
4)
Preparing for sexual relations both psychologically and
physically.
5)
Ensuring cleanliness and personal hygiene.
6)
The wife adorning herself for her husband.
7)
The wife exhibiting feminine traits in front of her husband.
8)
The husband exhibiting affection towards his wife and preceding
sex with kind words.
9)
Foreplay between the spouses before having sex.
10) Covering up copies of the
Qur'an and other Islamic literature during sexual relations.
11) Reciting the various supplications.
12) The husband waiting for the
wife to achieve sexual climax.
13) Being affectionate and
considerate towards one's spouse after sex.
14) Cleanliness after sexual
relations.
15) Having a ritual bath, or
performing a ritual ablution, or at the least washing one's private parts
before sleeping, eating or re-engaging in sexual relations.
PROHIBITED AND DISLIKED ACTS
1)
The wife refusing to make herself sexually available for her
husband without a valid reason.
2)
The husband depriving his wife of her right of sex without a valid
reason.
3)
Sex during menstruation and post-natal bleeding.
4)
The husband intentionally drinking his wife's milk [according to the
Hanafi School].
5)
Using food during foreplay [disliked].
6)
Using sex aids during foreplay [disliked, but in some cases prohibited].
7)
Bondage and flogging.
8)
Sexually provocative dancing accompanied by music.
9)
Watching pornographic material for stimulation.
10)
Cross-dressing.
11)
Deriving sexual pleasure from urine and filth.
12)
Public display of affection, and sex in front of others.
13)
Couples taking intimate pictures of each other.
14)
Fantasising about another person during sex.
15)
Anal sex.
16)
Oral sex [disliked when sexual fluids do not enter the mouth, and prohibited
when it involves sexual fluids entering the mouth].
17)
Self-masturbation via phone-sex with one's spouse.
18)
Revealing secrets of sexual relations to others.
To Be Continued....
