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PREFERRED TIMES FOR SEX
1)
The optimal time for sex is when one is relaxed and a
temperamental balance exists in both spouses. Any tension or anxiety, whether
hunger, thirst, anger, depression or illness will dampen the passion and may well
prove to be unhealthy for the body. For some people, the optimal time is the
night, when the husband is unoccupied with the pressures of work, whilst others
may feel fresh and agile in the morning directly after waking up from sleep.
2)
Some scholars consider the latter part of the night to be the best
time for sex because the stomach is full during the earlier part of the night,
and sex on a full stomach is harmful. Sexual relations between couples are best
suited after food has been completely digested. This was also the usual
practice of the Messenger of Allah (s), although he is reported to have slept with his wives at other
times as well.
Abu lshaq relates, "I
asked al-Aswad ibn Yazid regarding what Sayyida 'A'isha (r) informed him about the [night] prayer of
the Messenger of Allah (s). She ('A'isha (r)) said:
"He would sleep in the
early part of the night, and wake up in the latter part [to offer prayers]. If
he then wished to fulfil his desire with his wife, he would fulfil his desire,
and then sleep. When the first call to prayer was made he would jump up (by
Allah, she, i.e. 'A'isha, did not say, "He would stand up") and pour
water over himself (by Allah she, i.e. 'A'isha, did not say that he took a bath
but I know what she meant). If he was not in a state of major ritual impurity,
he would [merely] perform ablution, the ablution for prayer and then offer two Rak'as
[Sunna of Fajr]."
(Sahih Muslim 739)
For those who find it difficult
to wait for the end of the night, a practical solution is to eat a light meal
in the early part of the evening. In this way, the stomach will not be full
when having sex in the earlier part of the night.
3)
Sexual relations on Friday and the night preceding Friday is also recommended
and some consider this virtuous. Imam Abu Hamid al Ghazali states in his
renowned Ihya '' Ulum al-Din that according to some scholars, sex
on Friday and the night preceding it is recommended (mustahab) due to
the hadith narrated by Aws ibn Aws al-Thaqafi (r) regarding the reward of one bathing and causing the spouse to
bathe on Fridays, quoted earlier. (See: Ithaf al-Sadat al-Muttaqin bi Sharh Ihya' 'Ulum al-Din 6:175)
DISLIKED TIMES
1)
Having sex when one needs to relieve oneself is both disliked and detrimental
to one's health, whether one needs to urinate or defecate. There is also a hadith
reported in this regard. Sayyiduna Anas ibn Malik (r) relates that the Messenger of Allah (s) is reported to have said:
"One of you should not
have sex when there is a need to defecate, for that causes the illness of piles
(bawasir), and one of you should not have sex when there is a need to
urinate, for that causes the illness of tumour (nawasir)." (Kanz
al-'Ummal44902, the chain of transmission for this report is not
authenticated)
2)
Imam Ghazali states in his Ihya' that it is disliked to
have sex during three nights of each month: the first, the last and the middle
night [i.e. the fourteenth night]. It is said that the devils appear on these nights where sexual
relations are taking place between spouses. The detestability of sexual
relations on these nights is related from 'Ali, Mu'awiya and Abu Hurayra (r) (See: Ithaf al-Sadat al-Muttaqin bi Sharh Ihya" Ulum al-Din 6:175)
To Be Continued....
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