Body Contact - Islamic Guide To Sexual Relations

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Foreplay can take many forms, and it is best left to the couple to discover what stimulates them, since each couple is different. The prohibited acts, however, must be avoided. Nevertheless, some general guidelines are presented here: 

1) Kissing

2) Massaging and Caressing

3) Body Contact

Part of foreplay is to have full-length, body-to-body contact, i.e. to hold the body of one's spouse full-length against oneself. This includes hugging, amorous caressing, cuddling, rolling around, taking one's spouse into one's arms, rubbing one's body against one's spouse and lying completely on top of one's spouse. This is permitted and encouraged, with or without clothes.

A question arises here about the permissibility of the husband rubbing his penis against his wife's thighs, stomach and other parts of the body to ejaculate, and likewise, the permissibility of the wife stroking her vagina against a part of her husband's body to reach an orgasm.

In light of the previous discussion on mutual masturbation, it is clear that this act is permitted for both spouses. Imam Ibn 'Abidin in his Radd al-Muhtar explains that rubbing the penis against the wife's thighs (tafkh'idh) or against her stomach (tabt'in) to ejaculate are both permitted, although slightly disliked (karaha tanz'ihiyya), because semen is wasted. (Radd al-Muhtar 2:399 and 4:27)

The renowned jurist of the Indian Subcontinent, Shaykh Mufti Muhammad Shafi' Uthmani, states: "If one ejaculates by rubbing against the hands and other parts of the wife due to need, then this is permitted without even being disliked. Cases of need include the wife being on menstruation or postnatal bleeding and the husband has a need to fulfil his sexual desire. If this is done without need, then it is [still permitted but] slightly disliked." (Imdad al-Muft'in 2:585)

This returns us to the principle that the union of marriage allows each spouse to derive pleasure from the other. As such, it is permitted for either spouse to rub their private parts against the body of the other to reach an orgasm. However, it is superior to avoid this if there is no need for it. One must also remember that the means of stimulation must be one's spouse's body, and not self-stimulation, otherwise it will be considered unlawful masturbation.

Source: Islamic Guide To Sexual Relations

To Be Continued....